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is it wrong to ask people to not order peanuts at a restaurant?

Has anyone with peanut allergies (and tree nut) been to the Dixie Stampede in Branson Mo? What was your experience. I am trying to decide if it is safe to take my son there. He is highly allergic to peanuts and tree nuts.

This sounds like more of an issue with your friend than a general situation. Most friends should be more understanding and agree to take small measures to ensure your safety! If she had such a strange reaction, chances are it is about more than just an allergy. Perhaps she was angry about you for something else?

Also, may people without allergies dont understand how severe they can be. I personally dont have an allergy but my roommate does, and at first I thought she was just overreacting and being too sensitive. I did some research and I now understand how dangerous they are for some people. If your friend is not informed, she might think youre just trying to control her or being too cautious.

My heart is breaking into a million pieces for you. 🙁 I have been there with our sons peanut allergy and I completely understand how you feel. I agree with the previous poster who said that this ""friend"" probably didnt understand how serious allergies can be. I think that ""allergy"" is a misnomer for anaphylaxis and people just dont ""get it"" because theyve never seen it or experienced it.

If it is truly a friend that you want to remain in contact, you might want to try sending her the ""When Food Kills"" video ( or some other YouTube videos by experts (i.e. allergists or doctors at very prominent hospitals) saying the same thing that youve been trying to tell her...sadly, Ive found that most people respond much better when a doctor tells them the exact same thing that we try to tell them.

i just dont understand how people can think its some kind of personal attack on them. people say to me ""you cant just dictate what other people eat"". Im not, and when someone chooses to out your life at risk, i think you have every right to just ask. it kind of disgusts me

Ive never done anything to her. shes the type of person who will treat someone poorly and expect them to apologise when they confront her about it because she takes everything personally and never thinks shes in the wrong. shes been putting me down this whole year repeatedly calling me a freak or saying things like how do i know you when Ive told her to stop. i finally had enough and told her how hurtful it is. her response? ""whatever this is clearly my fault so sorry."" thats not an apology. its the only fight weve ever had so if this peanut incident has something to do with that then she has a serious issue.

I agree. Even with things going on right now (i.e. we are not really going to restaurants), I think it is still okay to ask friends not to order anything with peanuts if you are have dinner/takeout at home or at a friends house. It can be a life or death situation depending on how severe your allergy is.