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Posted on: Sat, 03/31/2007 - 5:39am
MommaBear's picture
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b]All I can say at this moment is [i]thank you [/i]. I'm blubbering at the the keyboard. . . and am feeling deeply grateful. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Others need to use the computer, so I'll be back probably tomorrow, when I have time to devote. . . [/b]
I see you found more time to devote (in another thread).

Posted on: Sat, 03/31/2007 - 5:53am
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Joined: 03/12/2004 - 09:00

Thanks for sharing your experiences of "intra-district" Carefulmom and Bandbmom. I guess intra was the term I should use...although the town policy on this as well as the form to use calls it "out of district" request. That may tell me their thoughts on requests like this already. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img]
Carefulmom, I did try to meet with other schools, and was asked for my name and address. I was told we weren't districted for those schools, had to elaborate on why I wanted to meet. Then I was told by the Principal that I had to make my out of district request first, and get approval before he could meet.
So, unfortunately, I don't believe my situation is like the ones you described. But, I'll keep digging to make sure.
What I think I want to do is meet with the private school, secure a spot for them assuming all shapes up ok, and then comfortably pursue whatever I feel I need to with the public schools.
I'll feel better knowing that if things get heated or I don't get anywhere, we have another option. I'll also be more comfortable pushing them harder without fear of how they'll treat my ds since I'll have another option. Make any sense?

Posted on: Sat, 03/31/2007 - 6:09am
MommaBear's picture
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by mommyofmatt:
MB and Gail...looks like you two are coming to more of an understanding [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] [/b]
At least that's what I mistakenly thought. . .it appears there are scabs to be picked.

Posted on: Sat, 03/31/2007 - 7:00am
Gail W's picture
Joined: 12/06/2001 - 09:00

Ai-yi-yi. [i]Your interprettion. [/i] I was not picking a scab. I felt we had reached an understandig. I was acknowledging WHY you made your "bet".

Posted on: Sat, 03/31/2007 - 7:22am
MommaBear's picture
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b]Ai-yi-yi. [i]Your interprettion. [/i] I was not picking a scab. I felt we had reached an understandig. I was acknowledging WHY you made your "bet".
Oh. I thought you were rubbing the salt in. [i]Interpretation[/i]. You're right.
I guess my interpretation is biased because I respect you. What you say has worth with me. (and it cuts more.)
I'm painfully aware of my limitations.
I guess a "social excersize" might have had response choice
A.) "I kid you not!"
or (a bit more on the sarcastic side but still in good humor at the risk of offending the politically correct):
B.)"Did I stutter"
I guess the response I gave you warranted a failing grade. I'm completely serious here.
I'm still willing to try. How about you? (crossing fingers)

Posted on: Sat, 03/31/2007 - 8:22am
Gail W's picture
Joined: 12/06/2001 - 09:00

I [i]am still trying.[/i]

Posted on: Sat, 03/31/2007 - 9:24am
Carefulmom's picture
Joined: 01/03/2002 - 09:00

Mommyofmatt, I did my interviewing more or less anonymously. And I did not deal with the principal AT ALL prior to dd being accepted. The key to me is the nurse. It is the nurse`s job to educate the staff at school about whatever medical issues the students have (pa, asthma, seizures, diabetes, etc.). In my opinion, the nurse can be your biggest ally. When I school shopped, there was one public school that has a fantastic reputation academically, but the nurse said to me (on the phone), "I would never give the epi without calling the parent first." I knew right then and there I could never be comfortable sending dd there. When a child is in anaphylaxis, you don`t have 3 minutes to look for the parent`s phone number and another minute to call. This nurse was in need of education, and I really did not want to be in the position of educating her. About the prinical, my opinion is that her biggest concern is keeping the staff happy. Sorry, but in most cases I don`t think the principal`s biggest concern is preventing anaphylaxis, her biggest concern is keeping her staff. So it is really up to the nurse to convey to the principal how critical it is that certain things happen. For example, at dd`s elementary school and her middle school, it was the nurse who decided all staff should be trained on the epi. The principal may have the final decision (don`t really know if that is true), but it is up to the nurse to tell the principal that a child could die if people are out looking for the only staff member who is epi trained. I know I am rambling a bit, just wanted to say that my opinion is that it works best to innocently call the school nurse with some questions (I never mentioned that we belong to a different local school), saying something like my child will be going there next year, he has food allergies, I was wondering do they have any kids right now with food allergies and how is it handled. I can say with certainty that at dd`s elementary school the principal did not give a hoot about dd`s safety and only went along with the things I requested because the nurse conveyed how important it was. At one point the PTA was using the peanut free table for their meetings which occasionally had peanut products, and I asked the nurse to go to the principal about it. Let the nurse convey how serious pa is. She is unbiased. I am just the "allergy parent".
Also, I am not sure if I was clear about intradistrict compared to interdistrict. Intradistrict was a permit for another school in our district. Interdistrict is a permit for a school in another district. I applied for both, not knowing that both would say yes. Neither one involved paying any money.
I do understand about the private school. I would call the school nurses at other public schools first. You still have time. I would be very low key, and try to get an idea of what accomodations are made for their current allergy kids. The nurse will be your biggest ally. You should not have to convince the principal of anything. The nurse should do that. For example, at dd`s middle school, after we did the 504, I found out from another mom that her child (who is always in trouble) had to pick up trash as a punishment. My dd has never done anything at school that merited a punishment, but I decided I wanted it in her 504 that she will never have to pick up trash as a punishment (due to food wrappers, cafeteria trays, etc.). Never would I have gone to the principal or 504 coordinator to get this added to the 504. I went to the nurse. She immediately understood why I was concerned (related to trash and the food allergies). She went to the 504 coordinator to get it added. It is her job to explain why it is unsafe for dd. The nurse in elementary school was only there 1 or 1 1/2 days a week. I just made sure if I had a request to wait until it was a day she was there.
[This message has been edited by Carefulmom (edited March 31, 2007).]

Posted on: Sat, 03/31/2007 - 11:03am
MommaBear's picture
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b]I [i]am still trying.[/i][/b]
[i]So am I.[/i] Seriously.
No offense, but you're sorta high maintenance. I probably pull the kid gloves out more with you than any other poster. Go out of my way to explain myself. That is so not me, you know. Go ahead, doubt it, but I say that in a kindred spirit way. Nobody can duke it out like siblings...

Posted on: Sun, 04/01/2007 - 12:56am
Corvallis Mom's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

[i]psssssst..... MB. [/i]
For myself, if I don't understand your point, I don't usually ask. I just wait. I know you'll keep at it until you are understood. Then it will all make sense. If I ask in the mean time, I'm likely to offend. (It seems) Gail asks. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
Different strokes, you know?


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